Anxiety Does Not Define Me

I find that People always share the shining side of things, especially in our world of Social Media. Yes, I am guilty. It’s easier to share the highlights of your life than to talk about the negative, but I think it’s also important to show we’re all human, we all have failures, we have things that are more difficult to cope with.

Admitting vulnerability has the ability to connect people. I hope that with this blog I connect with you & give you inspiration.

Everyone has struggles in life – it just happens that anxiety and depression are mine.

Anxiety. At some point in life you will face it. A public speech, job interviews or the first day at your new job, you’ll get nervous, do whatever it is that is making you nervous and then go back to your usual self. This makes me incredibly envious.

The stigma around having a mental health issue causes a lot of people to hide it. That’s why a lot of the time when you find out someone has anxiety or depression it comes as a surprise.
SURPRISE!

I am not an expert on anything. Most days I struggle with being the expert on me, but that is the only thing I come close to being an expert on.

People are puzzled by me — I come across as outgoing but introverted, very social but rarely wanting to go out and socialize. My alone time my safe place.

Despite many physical symptoms of anxiety, I’m a master at hiding it.

While I may not be able to prevent stress or anxiety from showing up at inopportune times, my remedy and a great place to start is by taking a deep breath and remembering I don’t have to have it all together all the time. Or even some of the time. The best thing I can do is live honestly with myself. I’ve also been through a couple of episodes of depression. Luckily, I have had the strength and guidance of professionals to get through them along with amazing support of family & friends.

I think a couple of my favorite pieces of advice for when feeling down is “it’s OK not to be OK” and “Sometimes we fall down because there is something down there we’re supposed to find”

I know this might sound strange, but I am grateful for my Anxiety and Depression even though I would not wish them on my worst enemy, but they have had a huge impact in shaping who I am, and in developing some of my biggest strengths. I’m proud of my kindness and empathy. Being familiar with struggle makes a person appreciate the goodness in life so much more. Life is good, and life is short, and for that reason I will make my journey count.

Anxiety and depression do not define me, but I am truly very grateful for the life lessons I have learned in working to overcome and manage them, and of the person I am.
I have become more proactive to stay healthy, especially when my mental health is at stake and have come to the conclusion that I will never let my most personal decisions be influenced by the opinions of others. I have to believe the right decision lies deep in my heart. I believe in the knowledge I have and trust myself enough to embrace the unknown.

The prescribed medication I take for anxiety attacks does not define me. I am OK with my decision to take medication when needed to help me with my anxiety. A decision that came from acceptance, not shame. A decision that allowed me to start down a new path on my journey.

My one piece of advice to anyone dealing with anxiety is to never let anxiety fool you into thinking you’re not strong enough for something. 8edbf8af8f9b1546b55e86bed33c060b
Not everyone experiences anxiety in the same way. This is based on my own individual experience.
No one knows you better than you know yourself. Always stay true to you 🙂  Always remember…Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness!

 

 

 

Attitude A Choice

21366_560737483983401_2017972483_nLast October I suddenly quit my job. Realizing that the past 6 years with this company was changing who I was. The negativity of the workplace was sucking the life out of me. I was becoming one of the negative employees I once complained about. Not someone I wanted to become. Was it scary, just quitting without a plan in place? You bet it was!

Anxiety & Depression took over my life for a couple of months until I just woke up one morning and said. “I don’t want to feel like this anymore” So I had a choice to make, stay stuck or pull myself up out of this frame of mind. A choice, something we all have.

This is when I realized the impact of choice and attitude on my life and how important it was to surround myself with positive, happy people and to make time for more things that made me appreciate the world.

Spending time exercising and helping others have helped me boost my moods and put me in a better frame of mind.
Working at developing a good attitude is so worth it! It has helped me to improve my health, my happiness, and I believe it will help me live a longer life.
Is it easy? I’m not saying it’s easy, but what I am saying is if I can do it you can too. It’s a choice!
Become aware of your thoughts, when you have a negative thought try to replace it with a positive thought. It takes some time, but what do they say? It takes 21 days to form a habit. 21 one days, give it a try. Choose your attitude, change your life! Change
Since implementing this mentality my life has improved dramatically. My health has improved. My anxiety and depression have disappeared and I have made the choice to stay aware, to practice mindfulness and to only allow people into my life who are good for me and have a positive outlook on life.
I’m at a time in my life more than ever before where I can say “Life is good” I follow my heart.
Here’s hoping this gives you some inspiration if you are stuck.

Starting the day off with a positive quote every day is a great way to reinforce positive changes in your life!

10 Days Of Good Deeds

Today I am patting myself on the back.  I have completed my pay it forward game.10 Smile cards gone.

Crazy how these 10 Smile Cards got me thinking. First thing in the morning when I woke up I found myself thinking, “What good deed can I do today”.  I almost stressed myself out. I just did not want to miss an opportunity to pay it forward. I quickly discovered as the days went by there is always going to be something I could do to make someone’s day a little better. I did not have to stress myself thinking about how I would pass along a card it just happened.

Here are a couple of the opportunities I was given over the past 10 days. They just might make you smile.

The toilette paper one was by far the funniest. I was at the mall and was washing my hands at the sink when I noticed the lady beside me who was about to walk away had toilette paper coming from the bottom of her dress. Needless to say when I approached her to tell her, she was so happy she did not walk into the mall like that. She was a little red in the face but we both had a good laugh & I handed her a smile card. She thought it was a neat thing and thanked me so much.

I work at a golf course and the bugs were pretty bad after a heavy rainfall and the pro shop was out of bug spray. One of the members was disappointed that we were out and so worried about getting eaten alive I just couldn’t let her go without offering her the bottle I had in my bag. As I handed her the bug spray I gave her a smile card with it. She was thrilled & upon her return to the pro shop after her round of golf she smiled at me and said “I passed it forward”- turned out several people on the course used the spray and the card went around to each one that used it.

These are just two short stories I wanted to share with you to show you it just happens you don’t have to wake up thinking what your good deed for today will be. Opportunities will arise. Just be aware of your surroundings.  It doesn’t have to be something big, just something.

The best part of the last 10 days was when some of the people I passed smile cards off to would come to me and say “hey guess what? I passed the card long” I could tell when they told me their stories and their faces lite up that they felt it, how good it made them feel by doing a good deed.

To me that’s all that matters, just making things a little better.

I have copied my cards and will keep them with me to pass along when opportunities arise.

Pay-It-Forward

DSC_0001Today I am excited to share with you my newest endeavor. I have just received my Smile Cards in the mail and am so eager to start using them.

What is a Smile Card you ask?  Well that’s exactly what I wanted to know when I first heard about them. So me being me, I googled it and to my amazement I found this wonderful website called Kindspring. It explained everything I needed to know and so much more.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and just as I am taking this journey to find the best of me, I come across this. Go figure. Awesome self-improvement tool!

I have 10 cards to pass around as I play this Pay-It-Forward game. Starting today September the 30th I will do an act of kindness for 10 straight days and leave a card behind inviting the recipients to pass them on!

I will be sure to fill you in on my acts of kindness and the responses I get. Should be interesting.

I’m most certain some people will look at me strange, but I’m also most certain it will make them smile.

If you want to start your 10 days of kindness you should visit this website, order your cards or download them. Just receiving the cards in the mail put a smile on my face! DSC_0002

Do an act of kindness and leave a card behind – See more at:

http://www.kindspring.org/#sthash.8UeXz2q0.dpuf

http://www.kindspring.org/